30 Day Positivity Challenge

30 Day Positivity Challenge – The story so far

Early July I set you the task of looking at – or should I say re looking at attitude and approach to life ie positivity and all its connotations.

Well how are you getting on?

Staying positive is the key….  using positive language….. re thinking things and celebrating successes no matter how small they appear to be – its a mind set approach and strategy – thats the challenge – this is the 30 Day Positivity Challenge – celebrating success small or large and getting used to doing just that.

Moving from I don’t think I can do this

To

I can do this I just need to `relook` at how I do it

This is the biggest change you need to engage in – I found it works for me.

My biggest challenge in the 30 Day Positivity Challenge – blogging and doing proactive work on my business re new clients and Development Plan development workshops and so forth.  Now I am more active in blogging (slow but getting there) and the development plan – well once I stopped beating myself up it happens to be coming along nicely – I moved from being too busy to do anything to getting organised and setting it out simply but starting it which was half the battle.

Its not easy – I know, often the negative thoughts come in – I call it my little devil on my shoulder whispering in my ear – `you can’t do this, who told you you were smart enough, what makes you think anyone would listen to you ` and the list goes on.

BUT – he is getting quieter as I get stronger in my positivity and belief in myself that I can do things, I will make it and I am getting successful both in my personal life and my business/work life.

Why not – positivity is making life so much more enjoyable – seeing things from a slightly different angle or approach is fun, challenging but enjoyable – I even have the kids at it and the husband.

Well if you want to have only positive people around you need to make sure those closest and dearest are doing it too – and its there I physically see the positivity radiating – hubby going for things in work that never considered before or even appeared interested before in.

The kids are the same, less squabbling, less put downs to one another, (still have normal teenagers and angst and stuff but not as before) and the household is, dare I say it `happier`.

Positivity and the offshoots of it have brought more benefits that I realised – I have had to work hard at it but really it seems to be paying off.

I practice it every day and now getting more and more used to stopping myself – from glass half empty to half full approach – and its this mind set that is the change.

After all you don’t see the top entrepreneurs or business people stop and doubt their own ability to make money or be successful – they are confident they will do just that and it is this confidence that allows them to do it. If something does not work – they reason it out why and then move on with a new approach.

Positivity and the power of being positive is very `catching` and you often find that other people around you begin to feel confident along with you, they embrace your positivity – hence why you should not then be around negative people as they only sadly suck your energy and positivity dry.

Like attracts like, positivity attracts positivity – that has been the 30 day positivity challenge.

How have you got on over the past 30 days ? let me know as this is all part of the life changes that many of us have to engage in – you are like a magnet you attract things to you or even a boomerang – what you throw out there you inevitably get coming back to you – worth remembering.

So thats the 30 Day Positivity Challenge – what changes have occurred – keep a journal of it all,

staying positive - celebrate your sucesses

Stay positive – celebrate your suceses every day, no matter how small!

and where are you now on your journey.

Keep smiling keep being positive.

Keep Celebrating your successes everyday, whether they are big or small.

 

 

 

Learning the need to look at Balance in your life

What is Balance?

Over the past months and definitely over the past few weeks – I have been drawn back time and time again to look at the whole area of Balance in our lives and in my life in particular.

What is this? What is its meaning? Is there one ? and I am reminded repeatedly that I am looking to at my own life and what I am doing and how is the balance in there – and realised I am just a bit out of kilter at the moment and need to strive to get back (if ever had it in the first place a sense of balance) – work and home life balance, personal relationship balance, family life balance, friendship balance and so on and so forth.

This, I know, resonates with many others out there and is not just limited to myself.  I have never not worked, never been out of work for any length of time over my working life so far,  and struggle to just do nothing.  I am now starting to wonder – what is that all about? why do I need to fill my time up so much? do I need to have so much going on? or can I just allow it to stop or slow down for a while?

Even in this short blog so far look at how many questions have come up – tonnes – so maybe this is me now giving myself the space and time to be able to either answer some of those questions or to be fair, just to consider them as well.

I have groped (yes groped as it has felt like I have been groping for long time) around for defined answers, rather than just woolly fluffy responses that define nothing, but just often end up leading to more questions or nothing.  I feel like I am awakening to a new understanding,  that some questions just do not have defined hard edged answers – some of the questions have woolly, fluffy responses  and I may never know the whats or the whys – and you wonder why my head gets wrecked.

But lets get back to balance – what is it all about – its about fundamentally recognising when there is an imbalance and wanting to see how or what you need to do to get the balance back. Where it is in your life is an irrelevancy as it will be personal and pertinent to you and you alone .  Once you have identified it this is  the first step to putting it right. For me it was and is about working out what being self employed is all about – whose wants or needs am I looking to sort out – mine, Mikes, Kids, friends – and then looking at what needs to be done to get that balance right again.  Whether I achieve it fully or not, who knows but its always a work in progress – but better a work in progress than never to have decided to do anything.

I have also decided in my quest to look at other area where more balance in my life is needed – to stop beating myself up over it all – the journey (the process)  is the area for learning and development as I may well never get it `right` – who knows what that would look like – perfection personified and I am not sure that will ever be me ha ha ha ha ha – here is the typical Aries looking perfection – but if I always do that will always then fail as there is no such thing as perfection – or is there?.  See now you understand how I end up with head wrecked.

So the big part of the learning for me to be able to achieve balance is stop feeling guilty – or try to not feel so guilty – give the time you have freely and willingly and with pleasure – once that stops then you need to ask why – balance balance balance balance – such a simple word with so many hidden meanings and pit falls as its thrown at us all the time.

As a working mum – how do you do it? fit so much in and still have time for the kids, clean the house and look after your husband – well here is my response I am going to be using from now on – ok thank you – bit hectic at times, can become alittle manic ha haha but thats having 2 teenagers in the house, 2 large dogs, 1 husband and a busy mum as a business owner – how are you?  Lets see what response get after that – I actually LIKE being busy and the business (busy ness) is what I thrive on – but I need to also listen to my kids and hubby too a bit more and be gentler and kinder to myself more as well.

So do I have a balance in my life – mmmm getting there a bit more each day as I get further and further away from the `old job` had for 20 + years and stepping closer and closer to `new direction` and new business of being self employed and working from home.  Will I ever get the Balance – not sure you know, but I am starting to realise that I might be ok with that and can strive for it and be ok striving for it , recognise need it, work on it, stop using it to beat myself up with it (what that is about goodness only knows) and take greater pleasure out of it when I do get some of it.

So there you go bet you did not think that a simple word such as balance could be so powerful for both positive and negative – stop beating yourself up over getting it or not getting it – being on the journey of finding it is just as important and just as enjoyable – brilliant if you have it in all areas of your life as its a desire we can use to drive us.  Being who we are in what we are doing and who we are to others that is what is important – having the personality traits that I do and some are good and some could work on – but that is what makes me ME – unique, flawed but still perfect to those I love around me – that is important.

So seek out your own balance and enjoy, have fun, and become a better person in the discovery of your own balance in life, and please please do not let others try to tell you what that should look like or be like – this is yours and yours alone to sort out – it does not have to be a complicated or complex route – sometimes the direct route is fine – some of us, like me just often like to go on the scenic tour rather than the direct route ha ha ha ha ha – have fun with it and do not feel guilty if not got it just yet but striving for it – doubt many have it – just keep knowing you need to work on it and why you want it – who is important and why .

Sharon