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My Journey to change

 My Journey to change

End of 2014

2014 became the end of fear and a new beginning towards change – again all sounds so dramatic and so forth, but to be fair it was not really – but it was the wake up moment – the Aha moment that I heard and listened to this time.

A friend contacted me and offered me some work within a local school – and I found my feet and some self respect and focus – my confidence and self esteem in such a short period of time improved and by christmas 2014 I realised that I did not want to go back to any of the feelings, negativity and behaviours that I had been through and been experiencing in 2014.

I have not mentioned even the business with you – both were ok but unfocused and lacked clarity – WHY? because I did. I was and had been operating in panic mode – consistently throughout the year – fear of change, and in total denial that anything needed to change ūüôĀ not a happy place to be in at all.

To the outside world all was grand, nothing wrong and all ok – yet my weight was ballooning, I was struggling with debt and money and trying to cope being a menopausal hormonal woman as well – it was like my body was attacking me constantly and had become my enemy…….. the warrior and superwoman models of behaviour back in play then!!!

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And so began 2015 – Change! New Beginnings

In this blog I will only deal with the start of 2015 as I actually feel this is like a living blog series of posts and I do  not want to swamp anyone in what all went on or even get so deep that it becomes a bit boring either.

Some parts of the year will be faster than others and some can be skipped lol ……. I am not going to bore you with – woke up, had breakfast – what I ate was etc – omg nothing like that – but it will be about a very simple journey of awakening that happened for me and how it is and has impacted on me personally and in turn then within my business, plus how I coped.

Menopause – added ingredient to the mix

My journey to change can not ignore this lovely little added ingredient into the mix.

I just can not go any further without raising this in regards to me and my coping strategies around it all and of course its impact on me Рpersonally and my business.  Omg it has floored me at times.  I started it all around 44 years of age possibly even sooner Рand it was not just the hot flushes for me it was major hormonal upheaval and irratic behaviour Рso after fighting it for quite a while РI pushed to be on HRT and stayed on them for around 2 years Рbut as you know everything has risks РI have a range of health issues and one of which is `sticky blood` so being on HRT really became an non option avenue Рso came off them.  Which is good but needed a replacement Рso researched and found Starflower and Menopal Plus from Simply Supplements and a slight change to diet Рbut thats also in the year of change blog lol.coming or going - menopause

But being a woman in the change – trying to make changes and deal and cope with changes – no one said it would be easy but dear god……………. please it just becomes another layer of complicated. ¬†Plus no one told me your brain goes to mush, your memory gets fucked or that you feel so irratated with everyone so often. ¬† But it was the memory lose and sometimes confusion that upset me and put fear of dementia into my head – that was what I struggled with more than hot flushes and sweats – have a room full of 45 + year olds in any room and you just have to make sure no heating on and plenty of water available and of course near the toilets – forgot bladder weakness comes next as well – holy shit I felt I needed traded in ………………..cartoon on computer

January 2015 – now Change

Ok so I did not wake up suddenly 1st January 2015 and go – thats it – change. I did wake up and go – ok what do I need to change and how the fuck am I going to do this……… oh shit – and then the internal dialogue of – ok Sharon, get a grip first things first what needs sorted first. ¬†Money – what you have, what you don`t have, what you owe, what you paying out, getting in and getting comfortable with making sure you know it inside and out – where you are Right Now?

So thats what I did – not right on New Years Day but the very next day…. 2nd January – I got out everything – bills, credit cards, bank statements and started really taking back charge of what I needed to know about where we were right now – personally and also as a business. ¬†And it was not that pretty to be honest – not major bad but enough for us and if we continued in same vein – it would not end well.

With the week I had registered online with bank – I know why had it taken me so long – no answer other than did it and got it set up and then I looked again – and I got hubby to look and we sat down and just went – RIGHT (BIG SHOUTY WORDING) …… lets get a grip. ¬†When we budgeted previously it worked for us – but we had gone of the rails (no idea what really did it as christmas was not an expensive spend but we had majorly gone off the boil). ¬†We had to get back on track and right now.

And we did Рat the same time as getting a grip of our money, cancelling direct debits no idea what for Рex rugby club hubby had stopped playing at 14 years ago ? I know only £2 a month but 14 years of £2 a month adds up Рthen magazines and others shite that really I did not need, we did not need Рnow down to bare minimum as bills going out only and essential bills only.

But I also joined an online FB challenge РMoney : A Love Story Challenge by Kate Northrup

https://www.facebook.com/groups/MoneyALoveStory

This started my journey into 2015 making changes РI know some might find it a bit hocus pocus as its Fengi Shui orientated but for me it made sense Рit started me doing and thinking and actioning Рand thus the change began.  For the 21 days I engaged in the Fb group and got so much from it all РI would recommend anyone seeking out challenges like this Рit asks you to take responsibility and then to take action Рand that is just what I started to do.

Action – is it painless ?

No its not Рits not easy Рwe, me РI had to face the reality that I needed to take back the control Рtake on the responsibility of our money, my money and begin to love it all again and not allow it to control me.  The fact that its taken me 10 months to even be blogging about this all РI think sort of says how deep rooted my fear of change and talking about it has been.

At 49 years of age Рnearly 50 lol Рto actually admit that this is all not perfect and running smoothly and that I have taken so long to get my head right (and still doing so) and all the other stuff as well Рis really hard, in fact its taken me all of 10 months to be able to put it on here РI thought I was the worst mum, wife, partner, business woman, woman let along person Рbasically I was a failure Рafter all how fucking hard can it be Рbeing organised, being in the right mindset, not getting distracted, not getting into negative behaviours and attitudes, get slim, get fit, be successful, make money  Рaaarrrrrrrggggggghhhhhhhhh.

And that was the crucial piece РI felt a failure РI felt I was not as successful as I wanted to be and to be honest at times I was not sure I actually wanted to do what I needed to do to turn it around Рtherefore by definition I was lazy and therefore a failure and therefore did not deserve to be successful.  Vicious cycle and it just went round and round and round Рand it was this i had to stop.

But the journey began – change begun and it has grown – its still not right, but good enough, right enough to make changes and progression.

 

2015 has been a battle with Money Рloving it, growing it, managing it, saving it, spending it, cherishing it Рbut I am in control of it more and more.  It no longer controls me Рas I get towards end of the year and look forward to 2016 РI believe I value it more and embrace it better than I have ever done before. I recommend her book and doing the challenges Рif nothing else worth a go to get some sense of what you need to do to progress forward.  Seriously it so makes sense and something many many many will not be covering in Business coaching or other areas of support.

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http://Money, a Love Story: Untangle Your Financial Woes And Create The Life You Really Want

 

I am still in midst of the declutter !!! seriously its an ongoing area of work with me – but one I am more insightful on – I recognise the triggers for spend and I am now looking at it all as – do I really need it, will I use it, what could I use that money for if did not spend it on x – is this an investment or a drain, is it an asset or not – and if all of the answers are not positive then its not considered.

The other thing I began to get a grip of…….

Organisation – change

Being organised is key for me Рand having become so dis-organised had lead to overwhelm and all of the above for so long Рso doing the Money : A Love Story Challenge started the process off and made me realise just how out of whack I really was.  This floored me as I felt when I worked in the Public sector for my 20+ year career I was Mrs Organised, so OCD and quite anal to be truthful on where things went and keeping things organised Рso this chaos and dis-organisation is where my overwhelm and lack of everything came from along with mindset of course too.

So the journey of change had begun and I was beginning to get a grip – and I was going to focus the whole of 2015 to do it – what I did not realise was that taking this year might only be the start……………… the focus I did not realise totally in January, February or even March of 2015 was that the change was about me and me alone.

Money a Love Story ;¬†”¬†So what does self-care have to do with money? Everything. Remember, you’re trying to change your thoughts about you – to open your eyes to your worth. …………………. Self care is about loving yourself. ¬†If you can`t learn to put energy toward your own care and feeding, who else will? ¬†……………………………………………..Money is about what we value. ¬†We pay for what we value. ¬†We pay attention to what we value. ¬†This is an issue of valuing yourself.”

 

And that was it Рthis year has been about money, organisation, family, business, mindset, getting fit, getting healthy all on one level  Р but its really been  about love and value Рme learning to love and value me again and its not all been plain sailing.

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And so the journey of 2015 continues for this 49 year old menopausal woman in business ūüôā ………

I hope you continue to follow me on my blogs right up to the present day across my year.  You will always be welcomed.

Thank you x Sharon ūüôā

 

 

 

 

 

 

Stress – How it can Kill You if You Let it.

Stress – How it can Kill You if You let it.

Part 1 of my journey of change – the voice of my heart.

Past career – past stresses

I walked away from a job in 2011 after 20 years that was over the last 5 years of it killing me – all because of stress – I failed to recognise the signs and symptoms and also thought I was invincible and super woman.
In early October 2010 I just about made it home – I know I drove home stupid I know I know – and within 15 minutes went into a sudden cardiac attack – ie my heart went into melt down – and I was having a huge arrhythmia attack.

Most sudden cardiac deaths are caused by abnormal heart rhythms called arrhythmias. The most common life-threatening arrhythmia is ventricular fibrillation, which is an erratic, disorganized firing of impulses from the ventricles (the heart’s lower chambers). When this occurs, the heart is unable to pump blood and death will occur within minutes, if left untreated.

All this from stress – I was taken into hospital where I was given medication that stopped my heart and restarted it again to attempt to get the arrhythmia back on track and slow down – as the next stage was full cardiac arrest – (sounds very dramatic and scary – it was I have never consciously held onto a nurse and consultants hands so much in my life and just begged them to help me) – 3 days later I left hospital and told that I was in need of some serious help – but I what I got was some serious help from the best Heart Hospital and consultant in Europe at Broadgreen.

I went in on 29th April 2011 and my operation was 88% successful – apparently they had fun playing space invaders in my heart – Left ventricular de-fibrillation is what Mr Mark Hall did – thank god I was asleep – but next time I apparently need to stay awake eeek – hence why putting off for as long as I can.

I know for me its taken me a few years to actually really try to address and stop the stress impact and its consequences on me – I get stressed easily, I tended to over personalise things – if it went wrong it was because I was at fault, I was the problem, I am to blame – I continued to batter myself on leaving work, worry about money, worry about kids, worry about me – hit menopause lost the plot – flitted all over the place trying to find what I wanted to do – lost a heap of money, friends, because of some of the issues thought I was losing my sanity and my marriage and thought I had lost me. I thought life what shit to be honest.

The year from hell – ok I just lost my way!

2014 turned out to be the best and the worst year – you would have thought 2011 was – but nope – I am a slow burner – and I burnt and smouldered and hurt myself until November 2014 and I woke up from a bit of a fog – fuck me did I wake up (apologies for swearing if offended but I actually do swear).
I looked around me and made a choice to change – (thought I had as had read and listened to all the self help, spiritual stuff and people, books and videos ) but it all just kept nothing at bay and the shite kept coming – and then I looked at me, really looked at me and decided I needed to just stop.
So I did – and then good things started happening – not huge things or at fast paces but small little things – and things begun to change.

As you can see from the video Рits all about learning to manage your stress and recognising what the causes are and how to combat them Рdon`t do what I did for so long Рignore, fight and under estimate what stress can do Рboth to you and those you love around you РI was a martyr and a warrior but realised the only one I was hurting was those I loved around me and me Рthe total opposite to what I wanted or thought I was doing .  Stupid yes absolutely.

Never under estimate your past – learn from it and move on

In 1995 and in 1996 I nearly died from Eclampsia Рmy daughters where both still born but I was lucky I was alive, on both occasions they fought to save my life and thank goodness they did Рsadly the longer term impact both emotionally and mentally were much more long lasting than the physical impact.  But on both occasions I went into cardiac arrest Рpossibly this was the first real signs I had a heart problem Рwho knows but I had in 2010 been given a 3rd chance to get it right and for so so long I had Рlike so many other women Рjust got on with life.  Took it all in my stride, worked harder, did not give up (fought hard to have kids born alive and well and me well) and just kept up the warrior mode and of course being super woman РI did it all.

I fought for everyone – Trade Union secretary, spokesperson at conferences, extra work, degrees and qualifications, work work work, lived hard and played hard – and did not realise just how miserable I was making myself – the mask was on and the sword was in hand.

Then my world (created and designed by me) fell apart, I had taken the voluntary redundancy and my grieving for a career, job and identity began and continued – of course it did, this was me living in chronic stress mode again – cycle of learnt behaviour for me and a coping strategy I only knew.

Post attack but in denial

From 21012 Р2014 I was in denial and fear Рadding more and more un-necessary stress to a world I did not need Рand while it was better than when in a full time job and career prior to October 2010 it was really just a smaller version of what had been happening then.  I got into negative thought patterns, negative behaviour patterns and it was like the self destruct button was under my finger and regularly just being tested to see how far I would take me or my family to the edge of pressing.

By grief was so deep rooted and that I felt my whole identity was so wrapped up in my work and career, I thought it was me – so losing all that was like grieving for a part of me that had died and maybe I was taking myself there unconsciously.

Decision to change – I woke up from a fug

Then as I said I made a decision to change РI knew I was losing my sanity as it was insanity to keep doing the same thing over and over again and expect different results.  Was there an aha moment Рsadly I had had a few, but choose to ignore them in 2012, 2013 but the one in 2014 was driving in the car from a part time job taken and just pulled over side of road and sobbed РI hated it.  What did I want ? What was I going to do ? How was I going to make those changes? I was at a loss Рbut for the first time I woke up from a fug Рa fog so deep set that I had just been living and not really doing anything more РI knew then that I wanted more but most of all I deserved more, my kids and hubby deserved more and they deserved the happy fun me the real me Рthe me they loved Рbut the I needed to get back to loving me and me then being able to really love them all back Рlove the world back Рbe me.  So I drove home, sat hubby down Рkids got into it all too lol Рand they just told me to stop hurting myself and start doing what I loved.

Literally the next day Рa friend from past asked me to do some work with her in local school and so it all began to change.  I began to really see what changes I could make, what choices I have and what chances I have been given.

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I started 2015 as I promised I would start it – making changes – positive changes.
I started with money , my love life/ marriage, my family, my business, my friends and through out them all myself. The most important one I often sadly forgot about or used to abuse.

 

 

 

 

Its Emotional – but good

Its been  an emotional year so far Рnot all has gone smoothly but slowly but surely things are improving Рand I know I am at the end of the year ie now also changing other negative behaviours re food and relationship to food and weight Рwhich has just been thrown in there as well lol.

But most of all I am finding what makes me smile, laugh and enjoy life again – hormones don`t help but hey thats the joys of aging and being female …… and I cry alot – just getting it all out, trying to stop being that warrior woman getting angry annoyed, frustrated and so forth – adverts get me going, doesn`t have to take much – but its a source of huge fun in the house – who can get mum sobbing over daft things lol. ¬†But its ok –

I have been able to look more and more in the mirror over this year and put the pieces of me back together again Рsome good people have helped, some via business who are now good good close friends and others via knitting who are now getting more and more close as friends.  Others I have let go and thats ok Рmy circle of friends is rather small but my networking of colleagues is rather large.

Hubby and me – getting on better, marriage sorted – we still have a few pings in the ring now and again – I am an aries and he is libra – says it all – me quick to react him slow burner – but we are 25 years married and 27 years together so I think holding our own.

Kids – I am blessed – nothing more needs said.

Business & BizMums Networking

Business – well thats on the improvement side – the Knitting Fairy has come out and proud, freelancing working away and its all just moving from strength to strength – even got into the finals of BizMums Awards – Creative Business 2015 – so not all bad then

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So can stress kill you?  Yes it bloody well can so why are you allowing it to.

Chronic stress over long long periods of time is a silent killer and often many cardiac deaths are caused by it all – please please do not allow this time little word get so much play time in your life and have the huge impact that it will do to you and those you love around you.

Take action now – do not live with regrets – I know I am not any longer allowing chronic stress to have a heart hold on me or my families lives – I want to be around for a rather long time, to spend time with my kids, see them into adult hood, their own families and be a grandparent. I want to spend time with my grumpy ole fella who I adore and want a retirement where we can be there for one another into old age.

Business wise – I no longer want to the have any regrets and my vision of big is now what I am talking about and wanting to put our there.

So don`t let stress kill you – don`t let chronic stress get a grip.

 

 

 

How to have more Self Confidence

Have you ever wondered how to have more self-confidence?

In this video Dr. Joseph shares the 4 things that make all the difference when it comes to feeling confident. This is an amazing TEDX talk, well worth watching…

You can have more self-confidence!

I will share 4 ways that you can do to help you to have more self-confidence – these are;

1.  PRACTICE, PRACTICE, PRACTICE

If you want to have more confidence you have to practice the skill or task you‚Äôre doing until you feel confident. If you want to be a great speaker, you have to practice your speech over and over and over again ‚Äď in the mirror, with your family, with friends, with strangers, until you feel so confident, because you‚Äôve worked to be the best you can be.

I am finding that I  do this more and more how do you get to being successful or confident about what you do if you do not practice for example РI have refined and redefined my networking 60 second pitch and through the help of getting great advice from fellow business colleagues, research and redefining who I am and what I want others to know who I am РI am now in the stage of practice, practice, practice.

Do you practice ?  If not how will you get to be the best that you can be?  Get out there practice, practice and practice some more Рas Dr Joseph shares in this video this is how great athletes and sports people get to the top of their game, this is how great business people get to the level of great success that they have Рpractice practice practice and even when you think you are done practice it all again a bit more.

2. GET GOOD SELF-TALK

We all have this negative self-talk that goes in our head. But guess what, there’s enough other people telling us we can’t do it, that we’re not good enough, so why do we want to tell ourselves that? We know for a fact that thoughts influence actions… so we need to get our own self-affirmations.

Recognising your own negative self talk is a good starting point for change. Then stop it and start the process of change immediately – look in that mirror each and every morning you get up and start with your own positive and good self – talk and get your own self-affirmations.

Self belief - it starts hereFor me I found this really difficult at the start but I am learning to challenge that negative self talk and re-connect again with the good and positive self talk about me Рas a person, as a parent, as a business person and as a person who is successful.  I am great, I love what I do, I am passionate about what I do and I do it because I am bloody good at coaching people, supporting people and I am successful.  Find your own self affirmations and start doing this now Рwith days or even weeks what the difference Рyou will start to stand taller and believe in yourself much more.

ps Рstop hanging around others whose  self talk to themselves and others is negative Рyou will never change if you are surrounding yourself with negative people РI promise you that.

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3.  WRITE A SELF-CONFIDENCE LETTER TO YOURSELF

When you’re feeling confident and positive in your life, take the time to write a letter to your future self about the things that you’re proud of.

Dr. Joseph says the reason to do this is…

because there are moments, and we’ll all experience them, in our career, in our life, in our job hunting, in our relationships, when we are not feeling good about who, what and where we are.

It’s in those moments that you need to get our your letter to help you get through the storm.

When I watched this video and listened to Dr Joseph I decided to do just that Рas someone who has suffered from depression over the years and can easily slip into that negative self talk phase this has proved to be an absolute little gem Рget your pen out and write yourself that self-confidence letter.  List all the things that you have been successful at over the years, all the things that are good for you, and I mean everything.

This I keep in my office on my wall Рespecially for those days as pointed out by Dr Joseph that we all get, because we all do get moments when we do not feel great about ourselves and this helps to knock those days out of the ball park and get us back on track in being more confident about ourselves.  Focus on the positive things not the negative Рafter all the says goes

What you focus on is what grows and develops

So focus on positive always.

4.  SELF-CONFIDENT PEOPLE INTERPRET FEEDBACK THE WAY THEY CHOOSE TO

When something doesn’t go your way, how do you choose to interpret it? How do you choose to respond? Self-confident people choose to respond in a positive way, that helps them to keep moving forward.

I used to think that I was not successful, not popular, not business orientated, and lots of “I can`t do that” moments.

What changed? ¬†Me realising that I was all of those things and so much more – plus working on my self confidence, self talk and staying positive no matter what. ¬†That’s what changed? ¬†I tapped into myself – and looked back to help me look forward. ¬†I read, I listened and I began to practice to get my own self confidence back again.

Now post redundancy, 4 years post redundancy, I now know that I am all the things I thought I was not Рsuccessful, popular and I am running my business in a way that suits me and what I do.  I am a successful parent and that my self talk is about working to my strengths focusing on what I can do and staying strong on it all.

I hope this all helps you in knowing how to have more self confidence.

Enjoy

Self confidence actions for you to do immediatley

1. Write yourself your letter or make your list.

2. Put the letter or list prominently for you to see and read it when you feel that your confidence is slipping or you are just having one of those days.

3.  Write out your own self affirmations and do the same again.

4.  Every morning before you do anything else Рsay your self affirmations  and practice.

Thank you xx

10 Destructive and Negative Habits of Unhappy People

Top 10 Destructive and Negative Habits Of Unhappy People

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I have been working with people – young and old alike for the past 35 years and I have found that there is often a common thread that runs alongside or through those that are miserable or very unhappy in their lives – they exhibit poor habits that are both often destructive and very negative.

So I thought what I would like to do is outline these so that you can read them, see if you are exhibiting any of them or have similar habits.  As a coach I work with people on these destructive and negative habits Рchanging their mindset, transforming their lives by working with them to put long term changes in to place.  This is often working on changing habits and thought processes Рmaking their mindset work for the construction of positives and positive habits for the future.

So what are these Top 10 destructive & negative habits unhappy people have that I mentioned?

Here are my top 10 destructive & negative habits

a.  Living to please other people

Living to please is one of the biggest mistakes and most destructive habits around that you can have. You are choosing to live your life trying to make everyone else happy and despite everything you do, you fail to make yourself happy.

It is one of the most used terms I hear all the time with clients – I just want everyone else to be happy then I will be happy.

REALLY…what is also difficult is other people trying to make you happy by them being happy!! It just goes nowhere to be honest and is so negative and destructive in the long run. ¬†One of the best things you can do is to figure out what actually drives and motivates you on a really deep emotional level and then do it – for you. ¬†Not to please any other person around.

b.  Negative self talk

Our actions come from what we tell ourselves daily. Unhappy people have the habit of negative self talk such as, ” I don’t know how?”, “It`s too hard”, and the biggest one I hear “I cant do that or do it”. ¬†This is so often repeated throughout the day that unhappy people do not even realise that they say it so often and its such a destructive mindset and self talk to be in.

The key here to change is to begin rephrasing these negative self talk phrases into positive thoughts – and from those changes and habits to positive thoughts positive actions come forward. ¬†Lets be honest on this one – it’s taken a long time to get into the habit of negative self talk and although you can quickly change and rephrase to positive, it’s always a work in progress and it takes practice. Sometimes you will catch yourself being negative and it’s then when you consciously challenge yourself or make the change to positive.

If you want to be a happier person start making that change now.

c.  You fear criticism

Lots of people spend their days worrying about what others think of them and will go to great lengths to look good or save face.  The ironic part of this all is that often the people that you are trying to save face from or worrying about what they think of you are doing something similar Рworrying what you thing of them. So the cycle of fear continues.

This fear of criticism stops many in their tracks.  It prevents you from using your own initiative, taking risks, robs you of your imagination and takes away your self reliance.  Fear of criticsm is so destructive and damaging and makes for very unhappy people all round.

d.  The glass is 1/2 empty person

Pessimism is the result of a destructive and negative habit that has formed over a great many years. ¬†It’s a hard habit to kick and becomes so unconsciously ingrained that it just becomes second nature. ¬†If your first thought is a negative one, learning to become an optimist will need you to dig deep and develop a new mental approach, mindset change and learn new mental skills. ¬†You will retrain your thought processes to see where there is opportunity instead of struggle.

In coaching with clients on many different areas and levels it is here that we do our greatest work Рconsciously changing your attitude.  Choosing to see opportunity instead of struggle or difficulty can be learnt Рand a new positive habit can be formed.

e.  Letting the past dictate your future

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If you happen to live in the past all the time and regularly look back at negative and past bad experiences, chances are your life now reflects this and mirrors it in lots of areas.

Listen lets be honest – you can not change the past – I know it sounds harsh but you can not change time or the past.

Allowing yourself to stay attached will only drag you down and in fact often those around you also.

Learn to let go of things out of your control and focus on TODAY.  Living in the now rather than the past is key to moving on and becoming happier with who your are, what you are doing and where you are going.

Its a reality you need to embrace.

f.  You are sedentary

If you sit around a lot, sitting at the computer all day, then you move from the computer onto the sofa – or it’s where you sit all day long – it¬†is not conducive for happiness.

Get up, get moving and get outside where you can.  Take the stairs, walk a little every day more than the previous day.

The endorphins you release from exercise (even a little ) is vital for creating a good mood and achieving happiness Рget out and get moving, get active.  You do not have to be a marathon runner but exercise and being active is a key habit to work on.

g.  Constantly worrying

You are life’s worry wort? ¬† Believe it or not, worrying is a choice like everything else. ¬†You will also probably find that in your family growing up there was another worry wort and you have taken up their life script as your own.

Worry is such a waste of time yet causes so much unhappiness.  Worry is nothing but fear.

Fear is nothing but an excuse to do not do, to put off and not embrace areas of your life that could make you happy or be happy.  You sacrifice so much by worrying and then being fearful Рstopping you from relaxing or being happy. You choose that and its a habit that wears so many of us all down.

h.You struggle to forgive and forget

Keeping hold of ill feelings towards someone or something is like carrying a huge weight around with you constantly.  I work with people who when they work on this area of their life and mindset and let it go find its like lifting a huge weight off their shoulders.

WE all have had bad experiences that leave a bad taste in your mouth – but forgiveness is one solution as well as deciding to let the hurt go and its a powerful concept.

Make a decision today to let it go. Learn from it and move on.

i.  You are a perfectionist

Perfectionism is one destructive habit that I had to work on really hard. It was one of my long term life scripts that really hindered and hampered me for my own personal development and engaging fully in a growth mindset.

Maybe its you Рbut we all know someone who is a perfectionist Рtrying to pursue perfection in all that you do may sound like a good thing.  If its taken too far, it can be so detrimental and actually hinder you physically but definitely with your emotional and mental health.

Perfectionism can lead to a host of mental health issues such as depression, anxiety, eating disorders, and chronic unhappiness. ¬†We can always do better and we can always learn from what does not go right! ¬†It’s ok if things¬†do not go to plan – learn from it and move it. You should be looking to not be a perfectionist but rather about improving your self, personal growth and having a growth mindset.

 j.  You define yourself by your job

Stop it now!  I did this for far too many years and it was a fruitless and very negative habit for me.  I was my job and I thought my job was me.

In the end it really proved the opposite.  I was so unhappy and so disillusioned and cynical by the time I decided to take the plunge and leave for my sanity and my health.  Best move ever

Today so many are in jobs they really do not love or want to do but feel that we are viewed by society as who we are by the job we have and living unhappily in that all. ¬†We are not separate from our professions but believe to be defined by the job, the pay, the level of importance of it all ¬†ūüôĀ

For me, once I dealt with this area personally, I was able to realise that I was not defined by my previous job and that really it had kept me back so much for far too long.  Working with a coach was what was key in all of this for me.

Choosing to be happy

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 Choosing to be happy is the first step.  Then you need to work at adopting good habits and remove the bad habits.

It’s practice and time – not always easy. ¬†It’s the best choice you can make and the best start to becoming happier, more content for the future.

If any of the destructive and negative habits resonate with you It’s time to¬†look long and hard at your life.

You can choose to be happy and choose happiness.  I can guide you forward to a happier future.

To book a consultation with mecontact me   Make a choice that is good for you today.

Mindset – Fixed or Not

Mindset – Fixed or Not

positive thumbs upMindset is a huge area and one that is growing in popularity and discussion – from looking at the Psychological theories behind it all – Fixed or Growth Mindset by Carol Dweck – author of the book – “Mindset: The New Psychology of Success”, she explains that people tend to have 1 of 2 basic perspectives about their own abilities and capacities. ¬†To looking at how Mindfulness and the area of positive thinking has and can influence your mindset and therefore direction of your focus.

There is a wealth of writings on the whole area of  mindsets РFixed or Not РFixed or Growth Mindsets Рand they are all fascinating and illuminating for a coach to use and discuss when working with a client in a coaching session.

Mindset is important when looking at motivation, interest to grow and learn, resilience and ability to progress forward – for me its about working with you, the client, on what gets you going – whether than be in your personal life or business – as quite frankly its crosses over both.

Understanding your mindset and how you tick is vital – getting an understanding of critical reflective thinking about what you do, how you do it, what you can learn from it and what will do next from that learning that for me leads to people being successful, progressive and developmental irregardless of their personal life or business/ professional life.

Understanding your mindset also works with you on your confidence and self esteem – as a coach working with clients over the years it is in this area that I often see the greatest changes and from those changes in confidence and self esteem, those clients then making huge changes, taking great risks, becoming more successful, gaining in deeper and greater happiness and moving closer and closer to achieving their dreams, ambitions and life time goals.

I like to use this illustration – are you part of the 98% of the population – fixed and stuck in many cases – firmly and solidly fixed in your comfort zone and reluctant to venture out.

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Or are you part of the 2% of the population – choosing happiness, looking for opportunities and growth of experiences and abilities, learning from those around you, liking change and getting the most out of life.

This does not mean that if you feel you might “fit” into the 98% of the population mindset, that you can not change.

Mindset-Quote-8 C Dweck 2 mindsets of Fixed or Growth Р(she claims that naturally about 40% of us are Growth Mindset and 40% Fixed Mindset and that the remaining 20% are a mixture of each) Рbut can we  change, can we develop and move our mindsets Рof course we can.

 Thats what you do in coaching sessions Рworking with a coach to challenge the negative, comfort zone and fixed mindset Рlooking at designing and creating a more positive, confident and growth mindset Рsupporting you, the client, towards transformational change and long lasting transformational change.

But getting to grips with understanding mindset is key – its the key to changing, its the key to unlocking your potential and its the key to gaining long lasting transformational change – its just then about whether you really want it or not, whether you want to be in the 2% of the population or part of the 98% of the population.

Call me for a phone consultation – 07887653817 – to discuss your transformation and change of mindset

Email me Рsharonjardine@sljassociates.co.uk Р to arrange a 1:1 if local face to face , phone and skype options available also.

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To be an Entrepreneur or Not?

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A Woman`s Journey.  This is my journey Рthis woman`s journey of self discovery and business decisions.

At this present moment in time I am in a position of great change Рphysically, emotionally, mentally and in business Рprofessionally.  I have decided that over the next 6 Р12 months I am going to write about this journey that I am apparently on Рmy road, my journey as a woman 48 years of age and the turmoil, changes and decisions that I am going to make and why.

 

Why would you be interested?  No idea at all other than I know from the bottom of my heart, gut, intuition, emotional intelligence that I am NOT the only one going through any of these issues, decisions, turmoil and changes.

 

You are more than welcome to join me on this journey as I am beginning today with something below that I read today of a friends page on becoming an entrepreneur and it being a daydream for millions of people.

Mine was a pipe dream of getting out and running my own business, being my own boss, answering to no one but me and making money that would make me feel good and be able to do all the things I have ever dreamed of doing.

You know already my journey in a sense began when had heart attack at 44 in October 2010, took Voluntary Severance from Public Sector job I had been doing for 20 years March 2011 and then had my heart operation April 2011 – this was the major changing point in my life – previously I had risked my health and life having kids – so then 12 years later to put it all at risk – for the stress that was coming from my job – well that was the biggest wake up call I could have had – BUT that is not the ending.

For me this was the beginning of turmoil, difficult decisions and lots of changes – some small and some so big that it has taken me a few years to come to terms with.

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So today I am going to leave you with this information and article – scroll down and read away at it – my next blog I am going to respond to this and explain some of the turmoil , decisions and changes that I have had to make since 2011 to the present day and where I am to some degree presently at the moment.

 

I look forward to hearing any feedback you might want to offer – happy to discuss as I know this is not just happening for me but for many of us at the moment and its not always as black and white as people think – its not always as easy (I am sure none of us thought it ever was going to be easy lol) but we are hoping that it will give us the answers our outcome that we so desire.

 

Anyway this is the first of many of my blogs and ramblings and you are more than welcome to join me on those – my first change that I will be completing very shortly on my website and front page is a change to the pictures to more reflect who I am and what I am more about. ¬†So here we go – SLJ is finally finding its feet ūüôā

 

Article to read and consider for our next discussion.  This was an article in the BBC Business news page 12 February 2014 and the link is below.

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/business-26030270

Is being an entrepreneur a nightmare?

Becoming an entrepreneur is a daydream for millions of people.

After all, starting your own company is an opportunity to become your own boss, chart your own destiny, and maybe make a fortune.

But is the reality always rosy, even if your business flourishes?

Here 10 successful entrepreneurs talk about the downsides of their jobs. It doesn’t sound easy.

Bye for now but let me know your thoughts.

Sharon

Guided Meditation In Coaching

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Guided Meditation in Coaching can bring about deeper and longer lasting positive change for the future РI can hear the deep breathes  already even before I have started РREALLY РI hear you ask.

Well yes РI am finding that the more work I am doing with people keeps taking me back to an interest and passion I have always had around me to do with this side of my work.  Meditation, relaxation, therapies that can sit with people to help them Рgetting to know yourself from the inside out Рtouching base with your inner person, inner self, inner goddess Рwho ever it might be Рbut touching base there and HEALING many of the deep rooted issues there, before moving on to becoming more successful personally and in career or business.

Using it to work on my self is so beneficial Рthe clouds or fog of confusion and lack of clarity are lifting and I believe I am in a better frame of mind, knowing and understanding of what it is I want, what my goals and ambitions are and also being more calm, more in control and greater enabled to become focused on HOW I am going to go about getting them.

Guided Meditation In Coaching don`t necessarily sit together in the purest of senses according to many – but for me I really think they do – not everyone is business savvy in how they approach things, many of my clients need space and time to work out what to focus on first and how to get the space to be able to do that.

Using Guided Meditation techniques in my Coaching sessions Рwhere it is requested and agreed to Рdoes just that Рwe spend a bit of the session focusing on the guided meditation and then discuss what the meditation brought about for them and decide on action plans for the future Рgoals can become clearer and focus is more defined and clarity is there as the client is less stressed, more relaxed and able to get to what they really want to focus on rather than it often getting jumbled up in the chaos and jabber that often surround many of us when trying to make changes in our lives. The inner self talk can be a powerful tool for good but it can also cause self doubt and sabotage on being able to get to where we want to go far too easily.

 

Hence why Guided Meditation & Coaching works for me with some of my clients – not all want to use it but its one that I use with increasing frequency.

Often primarily in the early days of the coaching relationship and then many clients go on to want just meditation sessions as it allows them space and time to focus on what they want for themselves and to learn to get better at it and hone the skill of meditation more.

 

relax-body-soulWhat is Guided Meditation?

Guided meditation is when you are guided, by a narrator, to elicit a specific change in your life. You are first guided to relax your body and mind, to help you reach a deep meditative state before going on a journey, in your mind, to reach a specific goal.

As the brain does not distinguish between an imagined event and a real one, the experience you have with a guided meditation is just like having a real experience. This has an amazing effect on your life due to the way the brain works.

There are many studies that show that practicing something in your mind is almost as good as practicing it in real life.

The beauty of a guided meditation is that you can bring about change in your body by using your mind, and that means activating muscles, changing your biological state, and even changing the way the cells in your body work.

Pay attention! Here comes the science bit

I am often asked why guided meditation is so effective, so I would  like to give you a little science behind guided meditation, and why it benefits you so much.

If you think of your mind as being an MP3 player, with hundreds of songs uploaded. All the songs on this MP3 player represent a program that dictates the way you think, act and behave in certain situations. These programs have been installed since your childhood and more added as you’ve aged.

So, for example if you were told, as a child that you were no good at maths, a program has been installed in your subconscious mind telling you that you‚Äôre no good at maths. Years later as an adult, someone asks you how to do a calculation for something, you quickly tell them ‚ÄėOh, I don‚Äôt know I‚Äôm no good at maths.‚Äô Your brain doesn‚Äôt even try the calculation as it takes it for granted that you‚Äôll never be able to do it as you‚Äôre no good at maths.

The fascinating part about all of this is that the programs have not only been written and stored in the brain, but stored in the very cells of your body. The brain has literally created a path, a neural network, to coordinate your actions based on environmental factors, which speaks to the cells in your body.

If you stop to think about the implications of this for a second, you’ll realize that our genes do not determine who we are; it’s the images we create in our minds of ourselves that determine who we are.

We have thousands of programs written into our subconscious mind, and each program will determine how we think, act and behave in any given situation. The trouble is, it’s extremely difficult to change these programs without some type of way to access the subconscious mind to rewrite the programs, and make a new neural pathway that will communicate effectively with the cells and genes in our body.

Guided meditation has the power to reach your subconscious mind, by feeding it images, sounds, and directing your imagination to experience all your senses, thereby giving your brain an experience of what feels like a real experience. When you have a real experience new neural pathways are made that affect your whole body, so when you listen to a guided meditation from GuidedMind your are literally rewiring your brain to form new neural pathways for your future success.

Meditation-BenefitsSo now looking at Guided Meditation and Coaching you can see how sort of `hot wiring` your brain to think differently will support you in your journey to make changes, working on your goals, action planning for the future and how in coaching, mentoring it is a great way and another tool in supporting you in that journey and ultimately getting your goals, desires, dreams, ambitions and all that you want to work towards success either personally, in business or career or performance in a job.

 

Contact me for more details – I will be running Guided Meditation workshops and sessions locally but sign up to my newsletter by contacting me on

 

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Be Your Own Life Coach

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Be your own Life Coach

Making and taking tough decisions is not always easy but starting with being your own Life Coach is vital.

Being focused on yourself is the most important point and the very beginning of any one persons journey Рlet me support you being your own Life Coach in this vital starting point for yourself and learn what I know will make long lasting changes, transformational changes, to you,  both personally and professionally in your business or career for the future.

 

I will share with you over the coming weeks – case studies of where I have worked with real people such as you on making those changes and how working with me can do the same or similar for you.

 

But start with you – do some of the ground work yourself – get an interest in being your own Life Coach as well – start the changes now and realise that you matter and that you are that important.

 

 

Be your own Life Coach – I started doing exactly just that – hey who coaches coaches.

Fiona Harrold – be your own life coach.

http://Be Your Own Life Coach: How to Take Control of Your Life and Achieve Your Wildest Dreams

This little book started such a huge change in my life – I had already been making and taking tough decisions on making long term changes in my career, setting up in business and also some in my personal life. ¬†But what this book did was open a window a fraction of space for me to see how much more work I needed to do ….. on ME – nothing else just ME.

I now follow Fiona`s work and coaching and I admire her approach as a Coach that I would like to emulate and role model.  I have had the privilege of being on a coaching programme she ran in 2013 and this further galvanised me to refocus and get to know with greater depth and clarity what I really wanted for me and my future.

This small book started a domino effect of getting for myself my own coach – both looking at my business and myself on a personal basis and realising the impact this investment could have on all areas of my life – not just where I thought it would be in.

Thats why I highly recommend not just this book, but also starting with yourself Рbe your own life coach Рif you do not see the benefit of it all, then it does not matter how many, or who or what you get coaching in and around either your business or personal Рyou will just be given tools but have no motivation, no interest or see no value or worth in those tools.  Then they are just a waste of time, energy, finances and effort.  Basically you will only go so far and will very quickly slip back into bad habits and unsuccessful ways of being, working and running your life or your business.

 

Mine in the early days was all about believing in myself, getting rid of self doubt and having self worth.

Recently I have gone back and re read Fiona Harrolds book as I have been following her on Facebook and also doing some webinars and coaching sessions with her as well – following on from all of this I actually took up an investment of a coaching programme with her and the benefits catapulted me forward in both my personal and also my business life.

I realised I needed to invest in me and to do that I needed not just  a good coach but  a great coach Рone who I could connect with and that is what I got on that coaching programme.  She has from this little book and me focusing on myself as being my own coach, me to realise that I could use all my skills, expertise and years of experience and be an excellent coach in turn to others who work alongside me.  That is now what I offer from me just being my own Life Coach.

 

Now while coaching other people is not what everyone else is going to do Рhaving a good coach is what everyone needs and that is now what I offer and I know that my clients receive.  I will share with you over the coming blogs some of those case studies of clients and organisations I have worked with Р how  and where coaching has worked for them and why they see the worth and value to them of a Coach on both a personal and business level.

Coaching is about making and taking tough decisions Рwe often do not realise how much we sabotage ourselves  and our businesses or potential for successful futures.  So read this little gem and start the journey by being your own coach and enjoy.

 

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Sharon Jardine Рemail  : sharonjardine@sljassociates.co.uk

 

New Year New You New Start – Financial Literacy

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New Year New You New Start – Financial Literacy

Financial Literacy –¬†for me has become the greates learning curve both on a personal and a professional / business level. ¬†When I was in paid work as an employee all I wanted to do was earn more, get higher up the career ladder , get recognition for all that hard work that I was doing and get rewarded with something to show for it all.

When redundancy came around I found out how quickly 20 + years was actually worth in £ cash Рand it was not that good Рand despite all the years of working so hard and not being finanically rewarded for those extra hours, stress and dedication Рmy redundancy pay came down to purely length of service and payments made only on ratio of how  Redundancy payment calculations are constructed Рso this taught me a great and very powerful lesson I am determined never to repeat again РKnow your worth and know what you are working for and why.

But this is not just about money as such Рthis New Year New You New Start part is around understanding Financial Literacy Рin that I want to introduce you to the term and for you to ask the question Рbecause believe me it will run across your personal and definitely into your business life Рare you Financially Literate Рdo you understand money, your attitude to it and how you relate to money.  If you do great x if you do not Рthen this is the final area but a vastly important area to get to grips with in this new year new you new start for 2014.

How hard do you work ? – do you work for money or do you make your money work for you?

Ok Рso why should I want to be more financially literate Рdoh why not?  I am not doing it for the money I hear you say Рok then here is a fact.

a. You will never be able to afford me as your coach Рfact РI am a business and you pay me by the hour РI am not free.  

b. You will never run a successful business and probably work exceptionally hard to earn money that you never hold on to and end up ultimately working too hard for too little money and never have the work / life balance you ever wanted in your life, owe out money all over the place and end up stressing over money all the time and ultimately always chasing money as you will never have enough. Your business will never be financially in a position for you to be able to leave it ie take holiday or take a break and you will always be in debt moving from crisis to crisis and financial worry to financial worry.

Phew that was alot …………… but do you get a picture forming here.

I am not going to talk to you in this blog about making money – NO – I want you to look at your understanding of your Attitude you have to money, about money, how it relates to you, how you see money and how you relate to money – that is about understanding what Financial Literacy is all about – for me and its here that I learnt huge valuable lessons over the past few years.

So lets start by asking the questions…..

What is your attitude to Money ?  What were you told about money growing up?  How was money referred to in your home by your parents, family and so forth Рeven your community?

Do you have patterns of money in your family, with you now ?  ie are you in debt?  how often do you get into debt?  what is your attitude to debt?

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When I use the word RICH – what image jumps out to you – these are the areas that I start to work on with you when we do our coaching sessions – working through this area allows you to understand how you manage money, see money, feel money, images of money, and your attitude to money – as they all relate to success – and not always around wealth and financial success.

Money is only one area we work on Рsuccess is not money alone but it may well be one area that you work on to ensure you have greater opportunity to get to the successful outcome or goal that you want.  It has a part to play whether we like it or not it is part of the overall equation.

I will relate this to me and give you an example –

Took redundancy 2011 Рat that time was in debt, mortgage, credit cards and loans Рdecided Redundancy would last about 2 years and I could take time out to get well after heart operation and might decide to get back into part time work later on.  All my life I have been told Рwork hard get educated and get more money Рwell did all that and we still had a good wage but not vast wealth that I would have liked.  I often said then Рmy job is my vocation money is not necessarily the main reason I work Рwell how right I was about that especially when it came to my company looking after me after all those years of extended loyality.  When it came to it,  all my worth was calculated in complete years that had worked for the company and nothing more Рnot the success that I had brought to that company, not the time putting in when did not get paid or get time back, nothing but years calculated to the least amount of money that they could pay me as possible РI was only ever referred to as a number Рfaceless and emotionless and purely fiancially driven. I totally understand it Рbut it taught me a valuable lesson in worth, value and my interpretation of where I put my value of me higher than the company put their value of me Рplus despite being vocational / educational and working for development community etc it was still a business and businesses look at The Bottom Line Рcost.

Less that 12 months later Рstill had credit cards, still had loans and needed to get into work asap Рnothing financially had changed including how we spent as a couple with 2 people working on 2 good salaries.  Reality check arrived and it was big Рthen decided after a crap attempt working for `friends` and being screwed over and going for a job in a large major supermarket chain for minimum wage and at last minute turning it down Рto take leap of faith and started up SLJ Training Рrealised very quickly not the right environment for Training etc Рso went back and retrained and learnt all I could around Coaching and Business Development. Took previous skills as a Senior Manager in Council and turned all those skills into business directed skills for Coaching and Business Coaching Рplus add on qualified counsellor, managed staff and teams and budgets for 20 + years into skills I could harness in SLJ Coaching & Training Associates.  But the biggest part of all the learning (and this was someone who has been in the education and educational / learning world for all my adult life ) was to learn about my attitude to money, what it meant to me, how I related to it and how it managed me in so many cases and not often in a positive way.

And rightly so you are saying – AND SO WHAT………..

What I did in the meantime was Рread and learn, listen and talk to people who understood the business world and success Рwhat I needed to do was also change Рchange  me and change my attitude to money, how I earnt it, what I did with it and what I needed it for.

My ultimate goal (I have a few but start with this one) is to own a Villa in Turkey to be able to retire there or have a retirement home outside of UK in the sun – I want to do this by around 55 but as Mike retires from his salary job 58 will go for then – that gives me 10 years (11 actually) to do it in. Plus Retire from `working` life (not sure I ever will but ultimate goal.

This does not happen on fresh air – but I also have 2 teenage kids to school, head off to college, university and clothe, feed and sort as well in the meantime – basically without an income this will not happen.

In changing my mind set around Money and getting better and better at it – I am now making changes – I am no longer spending and I am looking at my spending patterns and how and what we need , we have little or no personal debt, credit cards are paid off, mortgage for house has been dealt with, we save at a higher level than ever before – I am more savvy with money and what I do for money and what includes how to go about making money. This in little over 2 years and even more so over the past 12 – 18 months.

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My learning around money is improving and improved vastly  РI know more and more about what I want money to do for me rather than previously working my ass off for money and still having nothing at end of month Рrather than me just working for money РNOW money works for me.

I now know that for my Business to get better – for me to improve their and in my personal life I need to have assets not liabilities, I need to make money work for me not me killing myself working for money and I also need to be astute in what I do with my money – ultimately I can do more and give more and have a greater impact in my goals for my business and for me in starting up my business.

Thats the start of Financial Literacy Рthere are loads more but this is just a glimpse into what you do with me Рnot just dealing with light nice things but really delving in deep (not into your accounts Рthats for you and your accountant) but about what you value money to be for your success or your journey towards success.  What it means to you?

So if you are ready for the New Year New You New Start and learning about Financial Literacy Рthen contact me further and lets journey together  Рthe more you understand yourself, your attitudes and what you want from life via personal goals and beyond the more you will be come successful in your business goals and life Рgoes without saying really as one is not separate from the other.

Money and Financial Literacy are not dirty words, but an area which is vast and getting a greater and better understanding of it and how you relate to it and work with it – can only make anything you do better – becoming Financially Literate is the ultimate part of the changes of New Year New You New Start for 2014.

Thank you for reading my musings over the past few weeks and I hope as we end January 2014 to hear from you, that you have enjoyed or gotten something from what I have been saying and might be interested in talking to me about being your coach for the future.

Best wishes and Keep in Touch

Sharon –

New Year New You New Start – Goal Setting

New Year New You New Start – Goal Setting

quotes-Les-Brown-goalsQuestion I am going to start off with on our 3rd blog session in January 2014 РDo you set goals ?  Do you write them down ?  Today you are РWHY? because people who write down their goals are more likely to actually ACHIEVE their goals, targets, dreams, ambitions, desires Рwhat ever you want to call them Рwriting them down is the starting point.

 

Over the last few blogs I focused on YOU Рgetting you ready and in the right frame of mind to РCHANGE  Рto make CHANGES Рand be READY TO CHANGE.

Now we are focusing on GOAL SETTING – New Year, New You, New Start – is about making daily changes, putting in place good positive habits and SETTING GOALS.

Coaching or Mentoring for me is about this picture РI am your guide, your map reader to assist you in reading the road map that you need to set out,  to guide you and show you what is possible for you Рin your personal life, career, employability, weight, personal development and of course your business.

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I will work with you to assist YOU to Determine WHAT you want and WHY you want it. I assist you to understand what is important, and what you need to do to achieve YOUR GOALS  by GOAL SETTING.

 

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this is where it gets exciting, interesting and challenging at times as well.

 

 

 

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Now we begin to break down your Goals into steps, we design a plan , a plan of action and that is what I work with you on – this is where as your coach and mentor I do my job – working with you on transforming and making the transitions from having a dream into a reality.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

This is the value of goal setting – making them Specific, Measurable, Attainable/Achievable, Relevant & Realistic but most important of all as well Time Bound.

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This is now were YOU start to become SMART – and start taking the path or road map to achieving all your dreams and ambitions – in any or all avenues of your life.

 

Working with people – not clients or customers – but people – this is the most exciting part of my work – being with you and watching and working with you on your transformation and transition into achieving your goals.

 

Taking steps to make your goals happen is invaluable.

 

Make it happen today Рtake a pen or pencil, paper and start writing down what goals you want  or what you want in your life, personal or business Рwhy do you want them.  What difference will it make to your life having them Рwrite that down  also,   then write down  what difference to you or your life is there in not having them Рonce you start thinking in this way you start to see changes РNew Year New You New Start.

 

Now you need to start looking at it from this point of view and telling yourself ¬†– “I am going to achieve my goals, dreams and ambitions” and start with imagining or thinking that you have them already – what do you see, hear, feel – what does it look like for you – personal or business – if you had those goals already achieved, what difference would it make to your life.

Hold on to that image, hold onto those thoughts and now write down what you need to do to break the goal down further into steps – what steps do you need to take to get to that goal.

What blocks or barriers are there as obstacles that might stop you getting there – and then how are you going to over come them – what are you going to put in place to remove those blocks, barriers or obstacles.

See what you are doing!  Рslowly but surely you are setting out your ACTION PLAN in how to achieve your goals.

Most importantly of all – put dates to those actions, when are you going to start it and when are you going to do it – and of course when you need it finished or completed by – setting dates and even times to it – make it real – make them SMART.

Don`t use ambiguous words Рgive it all full details Рthe more details the better Рan example = I want to lose weight Рby end of year, well losing a kilo is still losing weight but you want to lost 10 kilos Рso define it.  I want to lose 10 kilos in weight and I want to lose 2 kilos each month, 1/2 kilo each week for the next 5 months or 20 weeks.

Another example: I want to  make money Рok so you make £10 this week or this month Рyou still made money Рor you can give it details :-

I want to change from having a 4 figure or 5 figure yearly salary  and want to have a 6 figure yearly salary Рok so how you going to do that? My question would be next Рwhat do you need to change or do to make that happen Рdo you need to learn new skills, better use of your money, your time, do you need to change jobs, do another job Р what additional knowlege, skills, and abilities do you need to acquire to achieve your goal and how will you acquire them.

See whats happening here ! You are defining and refining your action plan – being specific – follow this and you will soon find that goals you have had become achievable.

Thats the coaching / mentor role to work with you on Goal Setting – Making an Action Plan to achieving those Goals – getting you to keep to the action points and ultimately working with you to get to where you want to go and achieving your goals.

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So start now Рget Goal Setting and enjoy your New Year, New You and New Start to 2014.  Make it count.